In Session 2 of The Master’s Program, we talk about forgiveness. Recently with the newest group in DFW, I was discussing forgiveness based on Session 2’s section on the soul. In that Session, we differentiated between forgiveness and trust. Forgiveness absolves my right to pursue justice, placing that in God’s hands while I hope for the best for the other person. Trust, however, is different. 

When we talk about trust, we want to extend it in a way that helps and strengthens others. Reflecting on this during church on Sunday, I often share another aspect related to forgiveness: feedback. Understanding feedback is crucial because it connects to trust. There are four types of people you might encounter when offering feedback. 

The first type hears your feedback, comprehends it, and reacts positively. They appreciate your honesty and see it as an opportunity for growth. The second type also receives your feedback but needs time to process it. They may take a while to absorb, comprehend, and respond, but eventually, you can reconcile and function well together. 

The third type is what Solomon in God’s word calls the fool. A fool continues in their folly despite feedback and only learns through severe consequences. We must assess with both grace and truth to determine if we are dealing with a fool, as trusting them is unwise. 

The fourth type only understands authority and force, responding to handcuffs, guns, prison, and police. Feedback doesn’t matter to them, and they are best avoided. Trust and collaboration with the first two types are worthwhile for building solid relationships. 

Forgiveness is essential for growing relationships. If you don’t forgive or give feedback, you accumulate relational debt, leading to an eventual explosion without understanding why. Forgive everyone always and provide feedback to the first two types who can help you build strong relationships. 

Avoid the fool and those who only respond to authority, but still forgive them and let God handle their fate. Even if you cannot help them, hope for the best for them and avoid them in your path.

I hope this helps you understand that forgiveness doesn’t equate to granting full access to you. Assess their persona carefully, especially with fools. The Bible advises avoiding the last two types, but we should aim for brotherly love with trustworthy people. 

As always, I’m available for discussion if you have any biblical questions or need help processing this. I hope these thoughts on forgiveness, feedback, and fools are helpful to you. God bless you.

In your corner,
Jeff

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