Valentine’s Day plans may lead to a one-night romance, but what about the power to have the same excitement every day? Let me explain.

You know what fascinates me about Aquila and Priscilla? Here’s this married couple in the New Testament who weren’t just living together – they were living on mission together. “The church that meets at their house,” Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 16. Think about that. Their marriage was quite literally a platform for Kingdom impact.

This hits especially close to home as Heather and I celebrate our 30th anniversary this year. Three decades of marriage teaches you something profound: you either grow together or grow apart.  Looking back, I can see how the years where we were just ‘arriving’ at anniversaries felt flat compared to the years we were actively dreaming and building together. Those milestone moments weren’t just about how long we’d been married – they were celebrations of what God was doing through our marriage.

When Heather and I went through the DreamMaster program more than a decade ago, something clicked. We realized most couples spend their time planning vacations or budgets, but very few plan their Kingdom impact together. Yet the adventure God has for married couples goes way beyond coordinating calendars and managing kids’ schedules.

In The Master’s Program, we talk about aligning with God’s dream: Love God, Love People, Make Disciples. But here’s what’s interesting – when couples align their marriage with this dream, something electric happens. Your relationship moves from managing life to building a legacy.  You can literally take the promptings of future plans and desires and then map them to this God-sized dream for your marriage.

Think about it – what makes some couples become power couples in the Kingdom? It’s not just about two people being successful. It’s about having shared dreams that connect to God’s bigger story.

Heather and I have made it a regular practice to dream together. Some dreams are for now – like hosting small groups or mentoring younger couples. Others are for later – like the retreat center we’d love to build someday. The key isn’t just having the dreams; it’s keeping them alive and searching for God’s timing.

You know, we’re living one of those dreams right now. Back in our first DreamMaster session, Heather and I dreamed about having a place where we could host people – a space dedicated to Kingdom impact. At the time, we thought it would happen right away. But God’s timing was different. It took six years before that dream came to pass. Now our property hosts DreamMaster weekends, Men’s and Women’s Fellowships, Executive Retreats, and even The Master’s Program sessions. Looking back, we can see how God was moving the furniture of our lives around, preparing everything just right. Those six years weren’t a delay – they were preparation. Sometimes dreams we think are for “now” turn out to be for “later,” and that’s okay. The key is to keep the dream alive while trusting God’s timing.

Every few months, we make sure to have a “dream date.” We review our dreams, celebrate progress on the active ones, and keep the future ones simmering. Sometimes we realize a dream needs to be shelved. Other times, we discover it’s time to activate one we’ve been saving. This constant rhythm of dreaming and doing keeps our marriage energized with purpose.

Here’s what we’ve learned: marriages stagnate not because couples stop loving each other, but because they stop dreaming together. When was the last time you and your spouse dreamed together about how God might use your marriage for Kingdom impact?

I’m not talking about a quick conversation between Netflix shows. I mean really dreaming – taking time to imagine together, to pray together, to get excited about what God might do through your unique partnership. And then become intentional about executing the dream plan!

This is why we host DreamMaster weekends. It’s a guided experience where couples can step away from the daily grind and dream together. We help you connect your marriage dreams to God’s dream, creating a vision that’s bigger than both of you. Just ask Chris Vester, who attended with his wife Suzanne. Within nine months of their DreamMaster weekend, Suzanne’s dream of providing birth coaching services to their local faith-based pregnancy center was already becoming reality. Now she’s recruiting other women to join her in protecting the unborn. That’s what happens when couples dream with God – seemingly personal dreams expand into Kingdom impact.

We have DreamMaster weekends coming up in 2025 – April and October; both in California and Texas. The investment is $2,500 for the weekend, but here’s the thing: what’s the cost of not discovering your marriage’s calling? Of arriving at your empty nest without a shared dream to pursue?

So, here’s my challenge: Start with a dream date with your spouse this week. Ask two simple questions: “What do you want to do together before we die?” then “What do you think God might want to do through our marriage?” Really listen to each other. You might be surprised at what emerges.

And if you’re ready to take it deeper, email me about our upcoming DreamMaster weekends. Because your marriage isn’t just about the two of you – it’s about the Kingdom impact God designed you to have together.

Let’s build modern-day Aquilas and Priscillas. The Kingdom needs power couples who dream big with God. Besides, after kids and career are done, what will vitalize your marriage?

In your corner,
Jeff

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