Here in NC where there are already signs of Autumn, leaves are just beginning to change, and we are experiencing more grey days.
When we enter the Fall season of formation in the Renewal Cycle, we are entering what is referred to as “the doldrums” of life. Doldrums is a nautical term that refers to the ocean region near the equator where sailboats can get stuck in windless waters.
This season often leads to feelings of confusion, low energy, disorientation, and frustration, especially for those who are accustomed to living with purpose and momentum. We cannot avoid this phase of life, but as adults we may tend to stay longer than needed.
However, the doldrums is not without value.
According to Dr. Pam McLean of the Hudson Institute, one of the most important strategies while navigating the doldrums is NOTICING – noticing how long you have been in this phase. Just like the discovery process in our Benchmarks exercise in Session One, you cannot move on if you don’t notice where you are.
The doldrums provide a unique opportunity for reflection, recalibration, and discernment. It offers a chance to assess where we are in our journey and decide whether we are ready to relaunch into the “go for it” stage of life or whether we need to enter a more reflective and transformative “cocoon” stage. Neither path is better than the other, but recognizing the right season is essential to moving forward with clarity and confidence.
If you’re in a season where you’re feeling restless or uninspired, the doldrums might be a signal that you are ready for a mini transition. This could mean redefining your goals, seeking new challenges, or revisiting passions that may have been lost in the activity of the previous season. Relaunching into a “go for it” stage means reigniting your vision and pursuing your dreams with fresh energy.
This happened to my husband, Damien. The first time he participated in The Master’s Program he felt the nudge to make a change in his career. At first he felt as if he was to go in an entirely new direction and vocation. He was asked to renew his contract for another year in a high level position with one of the most competitive teams in cup racing, but declined. I have to tell you, family members were scratching their heads and started showing concern for us. Even I became getting uncomfortable to the point that I almost talked him out of faith. As he was continuing to pray and deliberate, other teams began extending promising offers, but they were also declined. He wanted a lifestyle that provided more balance and family time, which was rarely seen in the racing industry. After prayer and strategic counsel, he started a consultancy in support of new race drivers and new teams. This was in a different series that required him to travel less while gaining more autonomy over his time. He determined that a mini transition was required to further achieve life-balance.
On the other hand, the doldrums may be pointing to the need for a more extended pause — a time for deep transformation and healing. This is the “cocoon” stage. Just as a caterpillar enters the cocoon in the process of becoming a butterfly, you may have to step back from the hustle to focus on internal renewal. Entering the cocoon stage allows you to heal, grow, and prepare for the next version of yourself to emerge. This is often a more challenging path because it requires growing our faith in God and trusting in His process. However, it leads to profound breakthroughs, spiritual growth, and alignment with your true Kingdom Calling.
Both the mini transition back to the “go for it” stage and the decision to enter the cocoon require discernment and courage. The doldrums, while uncomfortable, is a divine appointment for reflection and recalibration. Use this season to tune into your heart, reconnect with God and His direction, and choose the path that He leads you on. Either way, the wind of the Holy Spirit will fill your sails afresh, relaunching you to fulfill your God-given purpose.
In your corner,
Nadya
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