Just a few days until Christmas, and still so much to do! One of the most important gifts may be missing this year if we are not paying attention.
I love this time of year and look so forward to all the events and gatherings with our friends and family. If I’m not careful I can become so involved in accommodating and facilitating everyone else, I lose the opportunity to be fully present with my own kids. My sons are young adults and out of the house now leading their own lives, so time with them is a rare treasure. It wasn’t long ago that when I asked what they wanted for Christmas I would be on the hunt for electric scooters, sports equipment, or the latest video games. When I asked my oldest this year he said, “you know mom, I would really appreciate silver!”
Times may change, but what doesn’t change is the need to be present with my sons individually. We learned in Session 4 how to create Best Days with our kids. This exercise can become richer and more meaningful as our children mature. There are powerful questions we can ask our son or daughter as we reflect on the previous year and prepare for the new. If we listen closely, we can become more intentional about how we plan times together or how we may become more present for our kids in the coming year.
Here are a few questions you may ask your child(ren) before the new year:
- What do you feel has been one of your greatest accomplishments/struggles in the last year?
- What is your biggest desire or dream that you would like to see become a reality in the coming year?
- What can I do to help you reach that goal?
- If you could have one thing different in our family, what would it be?
- Finish the sentence… You feel most loved by me when _________.
In the hustle and bustle of the season, there is no greater present than our presence.
When we connect with the interior life of our kids we connect with their hearts.
What are some other powerful questions you could ask your kids this year? Jot them down; I would love to hear them!
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